Dear Supervisors of  (insert employer’s name here),

I realize what a difficult job it is to supervise, I do.  I’ve been a middle-management supervisor myself, and it sucks.  Keeping that in mind, I thought I would offer a little advice.

Don’t call the workers morons and retards because you don’t like something they’ve done, even if it isn’t to their faces.  And when I tell you- politely and mildly- that I don’t like it when people call each other “morons” and “retards,” don’t snap my head off and tell me that you don’t care whether or not it bothers me, you’ll say it if you want.  This  is perhaps not the best approach. I must say, having worked for years with people who are mentally retarded, that they are far nicer people than you are.  You’ve just lost my respect.

Don’t chastise me for helping another worker when his clock card- which needs to be scanned before orders can be picked- is missing and he can’t find it.  You couldn’t be bothered to help him look; you’d rather discuss burning CDs with someone else.  When you finally come over to help us search, don’t belittle that coworker- who is only a kid- to me.  If you’re having a bad day, I’d be happy to listen.  We all have bad days.  But don’t take your bad day out on this kid, and don’t take it out on me.  If you care nothing for anyone else, then think about how thoroughly inappropriate and unprofessional you are being.

To summarize: it is not okay to call people idiots, morons, retards, or to imply that they will be worthless for the rest of their lives.  Nor is it a crime to show a little humanity, a little compassion, when someone makes a mistake or is in a bind.  I’m willing to bet that you’ve been there too at some point.  Know that when you come up to me later and make friendly conversation as a way of mending fences, I’ll let you do it, but I’ll also remember what you’ve done, and think a little less of you in the future.



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7 Responses to Letter

  1. Sheesh…you really have high standards woman!

  2. Johnnyboy says:

    Wow! I’m glad I’m on your side! Btw…will the “manager” read this?

  3. Aravis says:

    It was actually 2 managers, 2 different situations 2 different days. But when the second one happened yesterday, it really bothered me. Say what you want about me to me if you must. But to belittle this kid to me, right in front of him… to make comments about how hopeless this kid will be for the rest of his life because he’s obviously incapable of taking care of himself… while this kid stands there feeling more and more ashamed…

    unacceptable to me.

    No, neither of them will read this. One- the first one mentioned- would only continue to be an ass if I said something; it would provoke him and make matters worse. The other- the one dealing with the kid – would listen to me when he’s in a calmer mood. It probably wouldn’t stop his behavior, but knowing him, he wouldn’t do it in front of me anymore. He knows I’ll call him on it, because I’m close enough to him to do so.

  4. Becky says:

    Why do some people have such a hard time with common courtesy? Its not a foreign concept. Even my 4 year old understands it. I’m sorry your co-worker was belittled…there is no excuse for that. This was a great post.

  5. ::woot:: for sticking it to the man.

    People who are in a position of authority that like to abuse and belittle people really, really, tick me off. For realz.

  6. Jandy says:

    Ouch – you’re right. There’s no excuse. I have worked with some very clueless people (and have probably been there a time or two myself) but I know it won’t help to tell them what I think of them.

  7. Ian T. says:

    Name-calling is unacceptable anywhere, at any time. I’m trying to get this across to my children at the moment, who are doing it occasionally. I’ve got no tolerance for it at all and it certainly has no place in the workplace. It’s also one reason I left my first wife.

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